Monday, April 15, 2013

The Kind of Love I Want

Nurse:”It was a busy morning, approximately 8.30 am , when an elderly gentleman, in his 80%, presented to have sutures (stitches) removed from his thumb.

He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 am. I (nurse) took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and since I was not busy with another patient, I had a look at his wound. On examine it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redressed his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we fell into a deep conversation. I asked him if he had a doctor’s appointment this morning somewhere else, as he was is such a hurry. The gentleman told me no. He said he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

 I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer Disease.

As we talked, and I finished dressing his wound.

I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him, “And you are still going every morning , even though she doesn’t know who you are?” He smiled as he patted my hand and said. “ She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”